Enough of that self help stuff

Do you ever find that you take yourself too seriously?  And or take the people around you too seriously? That would be me.When I get on a reading tear of a theme or a person I have to read everything I get my hands on and everything I can google the key word for..okay maybe that was going a bit far.

I was deep into Choosing Civility, the Magic of Believing, Jesus Freak, (go ahead and look up the authors and the books I am n a different type of tear now) and then I noticed , this girl is not having fun with it

These books are not; I Love My Rifle More Than You or other books that I chose for the title or the escapism.

Douglas Coupland books are a good example of this for me.

Here is what I put into the dive into this immediately and do not pass Go pile;

You Or Someone Like You By Chandler Burr

Hubert`s Freaks The Rare Book Dealer, The Times Square Talker, and the Lost Photos of Diane Arbus By Gregory Gibson

The Leisure Seeker By Michael Zaddoorian

Three total different reads, two fiction, one not.  They are not listed in the order of favoritism, you have to rank them yourself.


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Trying to be a better person

I have been reading about civility and I feel like the most uncivilized person.

  • Getting your digs in is not civil,
  • contradicting someone is not civil (it can probably be done civilly but, I know I get a C grade on that and maybe a D).
  • Woa – rediscover silence, that is a really hard one. Especially as I have ideas about everything and everyone else’s lives.
  • Not a big fan of people that say NO to me.

You can see where all this is going.  Not only do I feel the need to re-read Choosing Civility by P.M. Forni

But , I went back and started Pastrix The Cranky Beautiful Faith of a Sinner and a Saint by Nadia Bolz-Weber and re-reading for the umpteenth time The Morals  of Chess by Ben Franklin.

All of this to make me a better listener, onversationalist, that I am not alone with falling below the standard  and then I started

Two Steps Ahead of the Thought Police Essays by John Leo

I have thought of so many friends to share this book with.

We may all be going to hell together – sigh

This must be Monday


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Reading Explosion

One good book always leads to another.

That’s the beauty of being in love with reading and why I take the chance of one day becoming a hermit.

Don’t these authors know that I am going to have a permanent hooked neck from reading so much.  Sigh.

Not much of a rant especially when reading and talking about reading and trying to entice people to read is a HUGE part of my life.

I started off at the end of last week wanting to look into Civility. No yawning yet please.  when I meet with people that I don’t enjoy or that don’t enjoy me, when I say something that I really shouldn’t have.  When I was asked to leave a job because I said too much.  I am sure you get the drill.

It led me to Ben Franklin’s Morals of Chess.  Which as really 4 life skills but, I am still looking for someone to play chess with that doesn’t mind playing with someone with zero experience.

From Morals of Chess it went to; Choosing Civility The Twenty-Five Rules of Considerate Conduct By P.M. Forni

Which led to The Most Good You Can Do By Peter Singer

Which led me back to The Art of Living By Sharon Lebell

The end lesson for me was;  if your mother wouldn’t be proud of you don’t say it.

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Time to re-shelve

The books don’t re-shelve themselves and if they did they are doing a poor job.

It has  been in the last 10 years that I have had dedicated bookshelves.  Dedicated to books, and I feel very lucky that I can pull and read and put back maybe not lend (that was covered on another day).

Today I just couldn’t stand looking at the state of the shelves.  Sideways on top of others, not with ones by the same author. I am definitely not a colour coded book girl but I do like the non-fiction together, the novels together and on.

It isn’t even that I have a huge selection of books , more like an eclectic stash. But, it does make me feel at peace with my world when books are where they should be or at least where they should be for now.

Others might be out running a 5 K , vacuuming or looking for regular employment, I am blogging and reading and re-shelving, (two Rs and a B)

A secondary benefit to this exercise is that I find books that I want to re-read or that have a bookmark – somewhere in the middle that I forgot about.

It does create a small sidetrack , another stack is born just until I can go through and see if they should be back on the to be read pile or the to be read today pile or to the thrift store pile.

At some point I will get to reviewing books but, I hesitate to do that as I don’t want to muddy anyone’s perspective but then I am by giving these titles but it’s scary to have an opinion… around the merry go round we go.

So for today at least just the titles that are up for reviewing from my re-shelving this morning.

Mary Kay The Success Story of America’s Most Dynamic Businesswoman By Mary Kay Ash

Warrior of the Light A Manual By Paul Coelho

Regarding the Pain of Others By Susan Sontag

Paris France By Gertrude Stein

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Lend Me a Book

These are the 4 scariest words in the world for me.

Why not say; Let’s jump off a bridge?  Tell me the name of the person you are having an affair with (I am not but, who would tell someone that?) Lend me your first born child.

It can be traumatic but it does happen. From time to time some will ask to borrow a book.  I do lends books but here are my internal voice issues

  1. will I get it back?
  2. will they spill something on it or use Cheetos fingers to turn the pages?
  3. will they lend it to someone else or lose it?

Number 4 probably trumps (no capital t there folks) all of the other concerns. I have covered before that I don’t want people to think I am a snob to read social anthropology books and re-read Flannery O’Connor.  Or that I read Bowling Alone 4 times.

I am just really slow on the uptake.

On the other hand , not a a Dickens fan or Oscar Wilde – the classics although I cull phrase bytes from all of them.  f I read Nora Roberts it’s too main stream romance but if I read Let’s Talk about Kevin that’s really scary.

The second part of this, (yes there is more) The people who are asking for the loan don’t generally want to give up; what kind of books do you like?, where will you be reading it? do you prefer hardcover.

I do lend but I also drink wine.

The samples I pulled from Google books today because of various conversations and social media are;

Discount A Novel By Casey Gray

Notes From the Tilt-A-Whirl Wide Eyed Wonder in God’s Spoken World By N.D. Wilson

The Luster of Lost Things a novel By Sophie Chen Keller

The Book of Joy By the Dalai Lama, Desmond Tutu and Douglas Abrams

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